I’ve mentioned it over and over again that my job allows me to meet many people of different ages, but this week has been interesting to say the least. Orientation welcomes freshmen from all over, and it also presents the blessing to meet new people. It’s funny that no matter how many people you meet, or what the age difference is, the problems are very similar but just occur in a different perspective.
One conversation that I’ve had year after year is the whole notion of being good enough. Both girls and guys struggle with this idea that they have to be good enough for anything or whatever they convince themselves they need to be. The only comment that I really have about this is what about yourself? What’s the need to convince yourself you’re good enough for someone else when you aren’t even sure you’re good enough for you? What’s the harm in learning to love yourself before someone else? Seems too logical, I’m sure.
I met this young girl who was telling me the LONG struggles that she has had with relationships. From her parents to romantic relationships, all bad. In her words, “This is what hell must be like. Broken relationship after another.” No, not really. So we continued our conversation and I asked her about herself.
“What about you?”
“What about me?”
“You mention all these broken relationships, but what about one with yourself?”
“Do you love yourself?”
“Well, I go to the gym and eat healthy..”
“Ha-ha, no, no…do you love yourself? Are you okay with yourself? When you look yourself in the mirror, are you happy with the person looking back?”
And that was the end of the conversation. The answer was no, and she left in tears because she knew the answer. She was constantly told she was not good enough, so it became something she needed to prove. She needed everyone to understand that she was good enough, even at the expense of her not really being okay with herself. Seems like in her journey to find happiness she lost herself and really started to distort her opinion on what good enough actually is.
As cliche as it sounds, you are good enough. I don’t care who you are, where you’re from, or what you’ve done or think you’re going to do next. You are more than good enough, you are loved.
This false impression that you have to be a certain height, or a certain way or extremely popular, it’s really all bullshit. Because if the person that is looking back in the mirror isn’t happy with what they see, then what are they really good enough for?
Love yourself. It’s worth it.